“I realized I was beginning to resent my son. It felt unfair that I had to care for someone else’s child. I also began to resent my wife because I felt she had betrayed me,” wrote a man on Reddit. He secretly went for a paternity test for his son and discovered the truth.
When a couple gets pregnant, they wonder what their baby would look like. Will they have straight hair like the mother or beautiful curls like the father? Will my baby have blue eyes like me? The first glimpse of their baby answers all these questions.
What happens if the baby doesn’t resemble either of the parents? People around the couple keep saying, “the child looks nothing like you two!” These words often hurt the couple and stir up misunderstandings between them. Sometimes, the father starts believing that his wife cheated on him.
MY SON DOESN’T RESEMBLE ME
A 29-year-old man posted his interracial marriage story on Reddit. He married his wife after she got pregnant with their son. A few years later, they welcomed their daughter into this world, who looked exactly like her father.
His daughter’s resemblance made him think about how his son doesn’t resemble him or his wife. He had a darker complexion than the OP’s (Original Poster’s) wife. When the couple’s friends and family met their son for the first time, they asked the OP if he was really his child.
After his daughter’s birth, he started feeling resentful towards his son. Strange thoughts began to cross his mind. Was it someone else’s son that he was living with? His trust in his wife began to fade as he looked at his son and wondered who he looked like.
The OP knew that holding grudges against his wife and son wasn’t right. He needed to find out the truth, so he went for a paternity test. He didn’t tell his wife about it. Fortunately, the test results confirmed that he was the father of his son. He was relieved to hear that.
After the test, It became easy for the OP to mingle with his son. His mind stopped questioning who the child looked like. He loved both his kids equally and trusted his wife for not cheating on him. Everything was going well until the OP decided to confess about the paternity test.
“I confessed to my wife I got a paternity test. I hated keeping the secret, and I thought she would understand given how much he doesn’t look like me,” he wrote. Unfortunately, his wife couldn’t handle the truth. She lost her temper and accused him of loving his children based on their skin color.
She decided to move out of the house with the kids because her husband doubted her loyalty. He thought she was cheating on him before their marriage. The OP couldn’t understand her reaction and asked other users for advice. One of them wrote:
“YTA. She is absolutely not over reacting. You not only did not trust your wife, you let your ignorance get in the way of you bonding with your child. I mean, what did you think was going to happen when you had biracial children?”
Most people bashed the OP for letting his doubts affect his relationship with his son. They lectured him for being insensitive and judging his children based on their appearance. Another user suggested that he should have discussed his doubts with his wife instead of taking a paternity test behind her back.
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