A Man Refused to Share Inheritance With His Sister – Was He Selfish?

A 19-year-old boy discovered that his mother had a daughter with her ex-boyfriend. A year later, he received $6 million in inheritance after his grandparents’ demise. His mother asked him to share the estate with her daughter, but he refused. Was his decision selfish?

Many people leave their estate to their grandchildren instead of their children. They usually want to give their grandchildren a better future with the money. When a person is the only grandchild, they receive the entire estate, sometimes worth millions.

When you receive millions of dollars as inheritance money, you plan your future around it, and the thought of sharing it with someone else never crosses your mind. Not until your mother asks you to divide the money with the daughter she had with her boyfriend.

A Reddit user named judgeme2313 posted that he refused to share his inheritance with his sister, asking other people if he should feel guilty about it. He always considered himself the family’s only child until he discovered that his mother had another child—a girl she gave birth to when she was in college.

His father knew about the girl, Lucy, but no one told him about it. His mother conceived her while she was dating her boyfriend. They didn’t have enough resources to take care of her, so they gave her up for adoption. Lucy never talked to her biological mother until a year ago.

She contacted her mother and met her over lunch. Her mother then introduced her to the OP (Original Poster) and invited her to family events. The OP got along well with Lucy, but he never considered her a part of his family.

The OP’s mother was her parents’ only child, and he was their only grandchild. Before their demise, they wrote a will and told the OP’s parents that they wished to leave their entire estate for him. His parents were financially stable themselves, so they didn’t mind not receiving anything.

Since the OP was a minor when his grandparents passed away, their estate wasn’t handed over to him immediately. It wasn’t until he turned 20 that he got his hands on the money. He was stunned to discover that his grandparents left him a whopping $6 million.


After Lucy came into the picture, the OP’s mother asked him to share the inheritance money. She felt it was her right since she was his sister. The OP didn’t agree. He never considered Lucy a part of his family, and sharing the inheritance money with her was out of the question.

She thought it was selfish of him not to share the money. She had an emotional connection with Lucy and expected her son to feel the same way. She believed her son would accept her request, but she was disappointed.


The OP also shared that his grandparents knew about Lucy. They were aware of her existence and still chose not to leave anything for her. Another Redditor wrote:

“NTA – your grandparents were aware of Lucy’s existence and they chose not to leave her an inheritance. I am guessing since she was legally adopted your grandparents didn’t feel it was necessary”

Lucy was legally adopted by a couple, and they had enough resources to take care of her. One of her parents was an accountant while the other was a teacher, so it wasn’t like she lived in a low-income family. The OP thought she didn’t need the money as much as his mother thought she did.


Most people supported the OP with his decision. They said it was OK if he didn’t want to share the money with Lucy because he wasn’t legally obliged to do so. One of them suggested that his mother could leave her some money in her will, while another user wrote:

“This. If mom is so concerned about Lucy’s college expenses, she can chip in as Lucy’s parent, just like many parents do. She wants to make it painless by taking from OP’s inheritance.”

Another Redditor wrote that Lucy was legally adopted so she would receive an inheritance through her parents.  The OP wasn’t entitled to ask for his share in that money. Similarly, Lucy had no right over the cash OP’s grandparents left for him.


$6 million is a lot of money for a twenty-year-old. What was he going to do with his grandparents’ huge estate? The OP revealed that he planned on going to law school and opening a law firm after graduating. He would use the money to start his firm. A Redditor suggested how the OP could use his money wisely:

“I’m a lawyer, unsolicited career advice: I wouldn’t pour millions of dollars into a new firm fresh out of law school. You have enough money that if you just put it in the stock market in index funds, you could draw a six figure salary from it every year forever.”

He added that the OP could go to law school and graduate without taking a loan. He could then work at a firm and see if he wants to start one on his own. What do you think? Is that a better way to use the inherited money? We’d love to read your opinions in the comments section.


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