A bride-to-be took to Mumsnet with a particular and debatable question about her upcoming wedding guest list – which has struck up a mixture of responses.
In a thread titled, ‘To not want a child I haven’t met at my wedding?’, the woman explains that her April wedding is “going to be a child-friendly event” with “lots of kids entertainment”, but admitted that she doesn’t want to invite her cousin’s partner’s daughter who “has ADHD and is not very well behaved” to the event.
She said: “I feel quite bad saying no but feel like I don’t want a kid who a) I don’t know and b) may be badly behaved?? I’m not anti-ADHD at all, in fact about 6 of the kids coming have ADHD/ autism/ special needs, but the point is we know them and have a relationship with them.”
While the woman shared that her cousin in attendance has “a relatively new boyfriend” with the daughter “around eight or nine” who she also hasn’t met, she did say “the daughter could easily stay home with her mum. She just wants to come for the holiday as I live quite far away and it will be a family holiday for her.”
Mumsnet users were divided. One took to the comments to deconstruct the woman’s question:
“We have stated quite clearly that we want all our friends and family to bring their children along: Not surprised they think his child might be able to come too if you’ve been stating it clearly tbh.
“It’s going to be a child-friendly event: Just not for this child then? Eh?
“We love kids: Do you? What all kids? You don’t seem to like this one and you haven’t even got to know them.”
While another user highlighted that the wedding is seven months away. This would give the bride-to-be plenty of time to get to know them. “April is what? 7, 8 months away? If the only problem you have is that you don’t know the child, you could always spend a bit of time with your cousin, her partner and his child”, they said.