IT’S fair to say that most women find it more difficult to reach orgasm than most men.
It takes the right mood, setting and often a fair bit of time to find that elusive climax.
But, research suggests, 10-15% of women have found the search fruitless as they aren’t able to orgasm at all.
The term for this is “anorgasmic” although some women prefer pre-orgasmic.
There could be any number of reasons why a woman is unable to peak during sex. These include: taking certain medications or antidepressants, hormonal birth control, ageing, trauma, guilt or stress.
Expert Lux Alptraum, author of Faking It: The Lies Women Tell About Sex — And The Truths They Reveal, explained that went through a period of anorgasmia after changing her medication.
In an interview with Refinery29, she said: “Orgasm is something that’s most likely to happen when you’re relaxed, so if you’re dead set on ‘I’m going to make this f***ing happen,’ that’s not going to work.
“People who are anorgasmic are put in this vicious cycle where you can’t orgasm, so you feel broken, so you try to orgasm, but the more you try to orgasm, the more difficult it is to achieve.”
If you are concerned that you may be experiencing anorgasmia it’s best to start by visiting your doctor or gynaecologist to make sure there’s no illness that needs addressing.
It’s possible that changing your birth control or regular prescriptions could help but for many people there’s no clear cut answer.
Lux said: “What I would tell someone who is anorgasmic and wants to have enjoyable sex is the same thing I’d say to someone who is orgasmic: think about how you like to be touched, think about what feels good, think about what you want out of sex.”
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