‘I bailed on being a bridesmaid the morning of the wedding because of bride’s comments’

A woman has asked for some advice after a bride accused her or ‘ruining’ her wedding because she bailed on being a bridesmaid right before due to comments she overheard

The bride says she ‘ruined’ her wedding (stock photo) (Image: Getty Images/iStockphoto)

When you’re asked to be involved with a wedding, it’s usually because you have an incredibly strong connection to those getting married – perhaps you’re a close friend or relative.

One woman has recently shared how she agreed to be a bridesmaid for a friend but claims that the night before the wedding, she discovered the bride had some nasty opinions about her.

In a post on Reddit’s Am I The A**hole forum, the woman explained that while staying at a hotel ahead of her pal’s big day, she overheard the bride-to-be and another woman trash-talking her.

Because the bridesmaid had gotten married a few weeks before this wedding, the bride was claiming the woman had “stolen her thunder” and was shaming the non-traditional day the other woman had had.

She was talking about her behind her back (stock photo)
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After hearing how cruel the bride was being about her, the woman decided she no longer wanted to be involved in the wedding and in the early hours of the morning, she packed up and left.

Since then, the bride has accused her of ‘ruining’ her wedding day as she was one bridesmaid short for a groomsman.

The Reddit post said: “I got married six weeks ago. My wedding was a hit. I had very non-traditional stuff. My dress was black while my husband wore a white suit. I had six flower kids (two girls, four boys) and my SIL was the ring bearer.

“No one ‘gave me away’. The bridal and the groom’s party consisted of both men and women. There were two MOHs as my husband’s best friend is also a girl. I had bridesmaids and bridesmen, he had groomsmaids and groomsmen. Everyone loved what we did there.

“Also, I got married on my Grandparents’ property and my decoration flowers were also provided by them. I own my own clothing line so I designed mine, bridesmaids’ and groomsmaids’ dresses and all the clothes were made by my business (men’s too) So we saved a lot of money.

She walked out before the wedding and refused to be a bridesmaid 

“My friend got married this Sunday. She was my bridesmaid and I was supposed to be hers. Her wedding budget was a lot. She paid for 1/4 of her wedding and her share was double of what mine would have been if I paid for the venue, decoration and all the clothes in retail.”

She continued: “The night before her wedding, all us bridesmaids was in a bridal suite having a spa night and stuff just having fun. After all that was over and everyone was going to bed while going to the bathroom, I happen to hear a conversation that was going on between [bride] and her MOH.

“She was b****ing about me and saying that how my wedding was so much cheaper but everyone liked that and that I have stolen her limelight and thunder by throwing such an unconventional one when I knew that her own dream wedding was more traditional.

“She called me ‘insufferable’, a b***h and a cheapskate.”

At this point, the bridesmaid says she “flipped”, went back to her room and packed up and left.

“I left a note along with a ribbon kind of thing she gave us when she asked us to be her bridesmaids and wrote ‘you can stick this up where the sun don’t shine. FU.’

“Apparently, this ruined her wedding as she was one bridesmaid less than groomsmen. I also didn’t leave the bridesmaid dress (Edit: I paid for it in full) and she wasn’t able to find any replacement.

“She hasn’t contacted me but our friends did text me on the morning of the wedding asking me to come back. I texted everyone telling I’ll be back only if she apologises in front of everyone (just her and the bridesmaids) for saying what she said. She didn’t.”

Some of the woman’s friends think she is in the wrong for acting this way, while others were on her side, so she asked fellow Reddit users if she was an a**hole.

More than 1,000 people have replied, with many also conflicted over who was in the wrong.

One person said: “Completely and utterly everyone sucks here. You went almost nuclear on her and you knew what you were doing. She was pathetic and spiteful.”

Another replied: “If you talk s**t about others behind their back, don’t be surprised when they act behind yours.”

A third wrote: “What should OP have done? Would barging in on the conversation when she was in the heat of anger been less drama? Or should she have woken the bride up on the wedding morning and said bye? Or you think she should have stuck around and partied with the woman who called her a b***h? Honestly, I think staying away from the bride and taking time to cool down before dipping was the mature choice.”

Someone else added: “Honestly while reading this, I rolled my eyes. I am curious about the bride’s version of events because all involved sound a bit insufferable and far too much gossip/side convos going on among friends .”

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