‘I swear at my toddler when frustrated but my family says it’s appalling’

Anybody who has brought up a child before knows that parenting is rarely easy – it can be stressful, testing and confusing.

To deal with sleepless nights, difficult meal times and toddler attitudes everyone has their own coping mechanisms whether it’s a nightly bath, glass of wine or pounding out your frustration at the gym (or rage room).

But, one mum caused a stir online after revealing that she lets out her parenting stress by swearing at her child regularly.

Posting on Mumsnet, she explained that her toddler never sees her stick up her middle finger, but that she does it behind her back.

She admitted that her own family think it’s terrible behaviour, reports the Mirror.

The mum wrote: “AIBU [am I being unreasonable] to sometimes give toddler DD [darling daughter] the finger behind her back?

“She definitely doesn’t see and it makes me feel better and is always at home, not out and about etc.

“My sister thinks it’s appalling.”

She claims it makes her feel better

And, plenty of mums weighed in on the situation.

One said: “I think it’s disgusting to do that to your own innocent child.

“Whether they see or not it is a horrible thing to do and you should be ashamed of yourself.”

“I think that’s quite horrible,” added another. “Would you like your toddler doing that behind your back when they’re adults and you’re calling them to ask for something?”

And, a third commented: “It makes me feel a bit uncomfortable to be totally honest with you.”

“I don’t think it’s really acceptable,” a fourth noted.

Fellow mums disapproved
Fellow mums disapproved

But, not everyone was so disapproving.

One person said: “This made me laugh as my sis-in-law was doing this to my very grotty toddler the other day!

“I can’t see the harm in it as a release when you’re having a really frustrated moment.”

Another added: “I’ve done It, I’ve also muttered f*** off to myself when my dd is banging on the bathroom door for the millionth time that day.

“I’ve never said/done anything to her face but sometimes it just helps to get the frustration out.”

“I may also do this,” blushed another mum.

What do you think – is this mum unreasonable or totally within her rights? Tell us in the comments…

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