‘My boyfriend won’t propose until I lose weight – I only gave birth 6 months ago’

Many people find it hard to lose weight after giving birth, however you don’t expect your partner to put on extra pressure.

But that’s exactly what one man did, according to one new mum.

Taking to Mumsnet, the woman said that her partner won’t propose to her unless she’s lost weight. This is despite the fact that she only gave birth six months ago, according to The Mirror.

The woman explained that her partner made the comment in front of a pal – and asked whether she was overreacting or not.

She wrote: “A friend came round last night and we got talking about someone we know who had just got married.



The woman said she only gave birth six months ago

“Friend said to me in a lighthearted way: ‘When is it your turn?’ to which he said ‘I’ve told her I’ll propose when she loses weight.’

“He has said this to me in the past, but I let it go over my head at the time. But as he has said it again, he must really mean it which hurts a lot.”

She added: “One part of me thinks it may be his way of ‘trying’ to spur me on to lose weight and in his mind thinks he’s giving me a kick up the arse and trying to be helpful.



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Some have urged her to dump him over the comments

“Or whether he’s being a total d*** and I should consider if I want to be with him let alone marry him.”

The mum added: “My weight doesn’t affect my health at all. No health issues. We have been together 9 years, live together and have 2 children.

[My] friend didn’t say anything at the time, I could sense she felt a bit awkward but after she left she text me to see how I was.

“Overall, the relationship I thought was ok. But now obviously I’m having doubts about everything.”

It seems many thought the woman was better off without her partner.

One wrote: “Lose 11 stone of useless flesh instantly by dumping him.”

While another added: “Do you want to lose weight? You could very quickly lose 14/15 stone…”

A third commented: “Wow, he said that in front of your friend?! That incredibly cruel.

“I understand that he thinks he’s giving you a good incentive, and maybe it’s coming from the right place, but he’s really going about it the wrong way and I’m not surprised that you feel hurt.

“I would feel very embarrassed that it was said in front of your friend too.”

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