My husband refuses to do chores, saying it’s my role as ‘homemaker’

WE’RE living in a modern age where women are no longer expected to do all the cooking and cleaning and men are no longer the sole breadwinners.

Well that’s what one woman thought when she asked her husband to help out a bit more around the house as was told he didn’t believe it’s his place to tidy.


The upset woman took to Reddit to explain that her husband didn’t think it was his job to help around the houseCredit: Getty – Contributor

The upset woman took to Reddit, to explain that she works seven days a week to maintain her start-up business and her partner works in a cinema.

A while her fella was fine to chip in around the house while the cinema was closed for the pandemic, he’s now decided he doesn’t want to help out as he’s back at work.

Writing on Reddit, she said: “The chore dynamic at home was always heavily skewed; I’m very neat and like cooking, so I handled the lion’s share of chores on top of my job.

“After the company started growing, John invested himself more in chores because he was staying at home due to movie theatres being closed. His workplace reopened a few months ago and he immediately stopped doing most chores.


“I have been lenient and doing more than my share, since he comes home every day exhausted and complaining. After work, he does nothing but leisure, totally overlooking the fact manage our household on top of running my company.”

The woman said she hit the roof recently when her husband wanted to know what time his dinner would be ready, on a day when he wasn’t working but she was.

She said: “I told him that I am very busy with work, and can he cook, for once? He declined, then complained that it was so much easier in his grandfather’s time, when the ‘homemaker’ didn’t do anything other than ‘her duties’.

He complained that it was so much easier in his grandfather’s time, when the ‘homemaker’ didn’t do anything other than ‘her duties’

“We had the biggest screaming match in our lives, with him calling himself the breadwinner of the household, repeatedly hiding behind the claim that he ‘goes out’ to work (as opposed to me working from home, which apparently means I’m a housewife).

“I steamrolled his claims by pointing out that I earn much more money than him, I work longer hours and still do all the chores.

“I told him to quit his job and dedicate all of his time to chores, since he is so enamoured with the simpler times of homemakers and breadwinners – even if he became unemployed, our financial situation wouldn’t change.”

The situation got more tense the following day when she presented him with a list of chores.

She said: “I gave him a list of chores to do, about 2-3 hours of chores daily. He constantly complains. I spent years doing all the chores on top of my job, but he whines at the prospect of doing just half.

“He told me he refused to do the chores and I couldn’t force him.”

Fellow Reddit users were quick to defend the exhausted woman.

One said: “Yet another man who thinks ‘woman’ and ‘maid’ mean the same thing. When it’s time to do chores, he wants a traditional marriage. When it’s time to earn money, he wants a modern marriage. And he doesn’t want to hold up his end of the bargain in either one.”

While another said: “I’d start looking into a divorce if I were you. He wants a mummy, not a wife.”

For more feuding couples, a mum refused to change her baby’s nappies, but instead makes her husband do it, she said it’s only fair as she never wanted kids.

While this woman “paid” her husband to do household chores with time playing video games but he said it was demeaning.

Plus this fed-up woman went on “wife strike” for two weeks – as her husband does nothing and the house was littered in dirty loo roll.

Annoyed wife goes on chore STRIKE for a week after husband claims he’s the only one who cleans and then reveals his mess


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