New dad refuses to change nappies at night as he ‘needs eight hours of sleep’

A dad has come under fire online after saying that he should be exempt from waking in the night with his baby as he needs a full night’s sleep.

Anyone who has had children knows that the first year can be a nightmare when it comes to sleep.

Often both mum and dad feel like zombies after suffering with broken sleep due to night feeds and crying little ones.

But, one bloke enraged people on Reddit after saying his wife should do all the night time nappy changes.

He explained that the couple’s five week old baby wakes between three and four times per night to be breastfed for 20 to 40 minutes a-piece.

The anonymous dad said he thought his wife should do all night time nappy changes as well because she does the breastfeeding and so is often awake when it needs to be done whereas he is not.

He wrote: “My argument is that she’s already awake to nurse, so she should do the diaper changes too.

“I have offered to do half the diaper changes, but that’s not enough for her.”

Parents know how difficult it can be to have broken sleep

He explained his wife’s side of the story, and said: “Her argument is that since she’s nursing day and night, it’s only fair. She says she needs time to go to the bathroom, drink water, etc, while I am changing the diaper.

“In her view: I am often grouchy, need to be asked multiple times to get up, and sometimes argue if he even needs to be changed.”

He added that when he returns to work in construction after his parental leave he will need eight hours of sleep each night.

Both parents are currently off work though his wife will have the next 18 months out of the office for maternity leave.

He said: “We go to bed at 9pm, and I get up with our dogs at 6 m and she’s up with the baby an hour or two later.”

But, Redditors argued against the dad.

The dad argued that he needed his sleep
The dad argued that he needed his sleep

One person responded: “Your wife has not yet recovered from childbirth, your son is exclusively breastfed (my eight month old son has just switched to bottles, and I am pumping, so I know how tiring it is), you are both on parental leave…

“And you have the guts to say that since she’s awake at night, she might as well change your son after she nurses him.

“And you don’t see how selfish everything you say is ??”

Another wrote: “Your wife is exhausted, physically and due to lack of sleep. You have no excuse especially while you’re on parental leave.

“She does need to use the bathroom, drink water, whatever – to take care of herself, so she can take care of your son.

“Parenthood is about shared responsibilities and partnership. You need to grow up and share the burden.

“There’s only room for one baby in your family, and it’s not you. Time to be a dad. It’s hard, but tough s**t — this is your moment to decide what kind of father, and ultimately husband, you want to be.”

And, a third noted: “Stop whining. Be a partner, Dad, husband, and help out.”

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