Parenting expert says you shouldn’t force your kids share as it could cause harm

When it comes to parenting, you always want the best for your kid.

You might have your own method at teaching them the ways, and especially when it comes to sharing.

We all know that sharing is caring, but in some cases it’s not.

One parenting expert has revealed why you should never force your kids to share as it could cause harm down the line.

Dr Laura Markham, from, believes the practice could be detrimental, especially if your child isn’t ready to share.

Speaking to VeryWellFamily, the expert revealed how most parents would want to teach their kids to play well with others.

While it’s good to get their socialising habits spot on quite early, it might even cause harm, especially if they’re not ready.

Instead you should let the kids work it out for themselves
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Dr Laura said forced sharing can teach the wrong lessons, like crying loudly to get what they want or interrupting parents.

Although these aren’t lessons any parents want to teach, the expert believes this comes from forced sharing.

Parenting coach Avital says brain development in kids under five hasn’t caught up with the idea of sharing.

Since they don’t understand the positive lessons of learning to share, it could force tantrums instead.

Avital said: “One way to help kids with sharing their toys is to ask them, pre-play date, which toys they’re not going to want to share.

“Together you can store those toys out of sight so that they have some preemptive control.”

The coach also added that sometimes the best thing to do is simply nothing and let the kids work it out between themselves.

She added: “When adults get too involved, we muddy the waters with our evaluations and judgments, seeing victims and aggressors where there are only children at play.”

Upset offended toddler brother and sister sitting separately on couch
Forcing your kids to share when they’re not ready could cause harm
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Another tip is to model the behaviour you expect in your children.

This means making an effort to share around your kids and to actively do the things you’re asking them to do around them.

Dr Laura also suggests encouraging self-regulation by letting kids play freely and then give the toy over when they’re finished.

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