Seven signs your online date is catfishing you and how to prevent it from happening again

GETTING catfished can be a rather traumatic and upsetting situation.

Taking a leap of faith in online dating can suddenly turn sour when the person you seemingly connected with turns out to have ulterior motives, like stealing your money or hurting you emotionally.


Online dating can expose you to catfishingCredit: Getty – Contributor
Catfishing is when someone makes you believe they are someone they aren't


Catfishing is when someone makes you believe they are someone they aren’tCredit: Getty

Here are a few signs that you might be getting catfished, according to Chris Parker, the founder of


While it might be normal to go Dutch on some drinks or a meal out on a date, there is no reason at all for your digital date to ask you for money.

If you are asked for any money at all, be on your guard. Scammers often use the foot-in-the-door technique with victims, initially asking for a small sum of money before increasing it gradually over time to a more sizable amount.

These requests for money are often couched in tragic circumstances – their family member is ill and they need money to visit them, for instance, or they were burgled and can’t afford to buy food that week.

These are designed to induce sympathy and pull on the emotional bond you’ve built over time, making it difficult to refuse.


Does your online date share the same hobbies as you? Do they also love the same books and films as you? Do they use the same pop culture references you do?

Sophisticated online dating scammers often conduct comprehensive research into their targets, crafting a fake persona that complements your personality and making it easier to dupe you.

Of course, this in itself shouldn’t be an immediate red flag – there are some wonderful people out there, after all. But use your intuition: if someone seems too good to be true, they may well be.


Virtually every online dating scammer uses a photo or photos featuring an impossibly beautiful man or woman.

This tactic taps into a person’s sense of self-worth, flattering potential victims into falling for their ploy.

Giveaway signs are people with flawless skin or hair, free from imperfections like moles, acne, or birthmarks, or perfectly lit and posed photos.

These photos are often lifted from elsewhere on the web, so do a quick reverse image search on Google to find out if your date’s photos are original and genuine.


Conduct a quick search for your date on Google. If they lack such a digital footprint, there is a chance they aren’t who they say they are.

In this day and age, virtually everyone has a digital footprint. It’s almost impossible to use the internet and not leave some form of trace around the web, in the form of social media profiles, forum comments, work profiles, and so on.

That’s not to say that a lack of these traces is, in itself, a sign of a scam – some people are just cautious about the information they share online.

But it is certainly a warning sign that should be taken into account when considering if your date is a scammer.


We are living in the age of Zoom, Google Hangouts, and FaceTime. Even before the pandemic, video calls were the norm for people wanting to catch up with friends and family. 

This makes it even more concerning if your online date is reluctant to jump on a video call with you.

They will likely invent all sorts of excuses to avoid going on camera and show their true likeness.

It should go without saying that if your online date refuses to verify who they are with a simple video call, they are likely a scammer.


Online scammers don’t waste time – if they think you are likely to fall for their ploy, they will declare their love for you after only a short period of time.

This approach is designed to flatter. Having someone profess their love for you is a compliment, and it’s easy to fall under the romantic spell as well.

Beyond this, instigating such rapid development in your relationship also puts you on the back foot, preventing you from thinking too much about what your date’s actual motives are by sweeping you up in their gushing words of praise.

If your online date is coming on too strong, pause for a moment to reflect on their intentions – they might just be eager, but they may well be a scammer.


Online romance scammers often don’t live near you, or indeed even in the same country. This negates any possibility that you might be able to have an IRL meet, and therefore verifying your date in person.

Many scammers pose as jet-setting corporates or soldiers posted overseas. As well as adding to their glamour and excitement, this also gives them a solid excuse not to meet up in person.

As with other signs on this list, this is not a definite indicator of a dating scam in itself – many people enjoy long-distance relationships. But when combined with other red flags, it might be time to distance yourself from your digital date.

Being the victim of an online dating scam can be an embarrassing and upsetting experience. Investing your time and emotions into someone only to find out you’ve been catfished can leave you feeling low – but there are ways to protect yourself.

A red flag that you might be getting catfished is when they love bomb you or ask you for money


A red flag that you might be getting catfished is when they love bomb you or ask you for moneyCredit: Getty – Contributor
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