The man has refused to change the wording that his mum chose, leaving his side of the family fuming at the “disrespect”, while others were divided over the message
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When one man died recently, his wife decided that would be no standard message etched on his gravestone.
After discovering his affair, she arranged for a very unusual message to be carved on his grave -and understandably, his family aren’t happy.
They’ve now requested that his son pay for it to be changed – but he has refused, as he sides with his mum.
He explained the situation on Reddit, where many agreed with him that he shouldn’t change it – as it accurately reflected his position in life.
The man wrote: “My father and mother had a very bitter marriage towards the end of his life, he had a long-running affair with another married co-worker and got her pregnant before he passed.
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“He was planning to leave mum, skip the country and move to Canada to start a new life with her. They had a house picked out and all.
“He had moved out and was living with his co-worker when he suddenly died of a heart attack while having sex.
“Divorce papers were never filed, no legal separation. They were in the process of moving all things legal. But on paper, they were still happily married.
“Now me and my siblings are already out of home, our youngest sibling is 19 and is in college. I work for a tech company and I’m currently back in my hometown helping my mom manage his estate.
“Well, my mom was hurt and petty and marked his gravestone as “In loving memory of John Doe, son, husband, father and adulterer.”
“My dad’s family and his pregnant partner are mad and want me to fix it.
“I personally think it’s fine, that’s who he was. He was all of those things. And since it’s my mom’s plot, I can’t do anything.”
Many sided with him, as one person wrote: “I would DIE (no pun intended) if I was walking through a cemetery and saw that! Your mom is an icon. NTA. I hope she burns his old shirts or something.”
Another wrote: “I agree with everything she did and it’s sad your grandparents/aunts/uncles/what-have-you are trying to get you or any of your siblings to stand against your mom…dad screwed up and maybe was screwing her over so let her have this.
“Technically they could try to pay and change it in the future if they give her some room for pettiness now.
“The only thing I feel a twinge of sympathy for is the illegitimate child. I am a big family person and like it or not, it’s your half-sib and the future kid didn’t ask for this.”
A third disagreed, adding: “Yes what your father did was terrible and unforgivable but for your mom to put that on his gravestone to be permanently seen is very immature.”