Son refuses to change ‘insulting’ message mum put on dad’s gravestone

After a man passed away recently his wife decided that a standard message would not do for his gravestone after discovering he had been having an affair.

The woman arranged for a bizarre engraving to be added to his final resting place, but the rest of his relatives aren’t happy.

They’ve now requested that the man’s son pay for it to be changed, but he refused as he stands with his mum.

The bloke explained his situation on Reddit where lots of commenters agreed that he shouldn’t change the carving as it reflected his father’s position in life.

The man wrote: “My father and mother had a very bitter marriage towards the end of his life, he had a long-running affair with another married co-worker and got her pregnant before he passed.

“He was planning to leave mum, skip the country and move to Canada to start a new life with her. They had a house picked out and all.”

The man’s wife took her revenge on his headstone

He continued: He had moved out and was living with his co-worker when he suddenly died of a heart attack while having sex.

“Divorce papers were never filed, no legal separation. They were in the process of moving all things legal. But on paper, they were still happily married.

“Now me and my siblings are already out of home, our youngest sibling is 19 and is in college. I work for a tech company and I’m currently back in my hometown helping my mum manage his estate.

“Well, my mum was hurt and petty and marked his gravestone as ‘In loving memory of John Doe, son, husband, father and adulterer’.”

The bloke went on to say: “My dad’s family and his pregnant partner are mad and want me to fix it.

“I personally think it’s fine, that’s who he was. He was all of those things. And since it’s my mum’s plot, I can’t do anything.”

His gravestone said: In loving memory of John Doe, son, husband, father and adulterer
His gravestone said: In loving memory of John Doe, son, husband, father and adulterer

Lots of people sided with him, reports the Mirror.

One person said: “I would DIE (no pun intended) if I was walking through a cemetery and saw that! Your mum is an icon. NTA. I hope she burns his old shirts or something.”

While another added: “I agree with everything she did and it’s sad your grandparents/aunts/uncles/what-have-you are trying to get you or any of your siblings to stand against your mum…dad screwed up and maybe was screwing her over so let her have this.

“Technically they could try to pay and change it in the future if they give her some room for pettiness now.”

They added: “The only thing I feel a twinge of sympathy for is the illegitimate child. I am a big family person and like it or not, it’s your half-sib and the future kid didn’t ask for this.”

But, a third disagreed, adding: “Yes what your father did was terrible and unforgivable but for your mum to put that on his gravestone to be permanently seen is very immature.”

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