Wedding guest turns down invite after ‘dictating’ bride banned her choice of outfit

A wedding guest received a message from the bride warning her she would have to find a different dress to wear on the day – but her decision to now not attend the celebrations have divided opinion

The guest said it isn’t the first time she has felt badly treated (stock image)

A wedding guest has taken a stand by refusing to attend the big day after the bride told her she would have to change the dress she was planning to wear.

The woman said she received a message from the bride accusing her of purposefully picking a bridesmaid-style dress, and telling her that if she had wanted her as part of the wedding party, she would have asked.

In a post online, the guest shared pictures of the pale grey dress she had bought especially for the occasion, alongside the dresses the bride had chosen for the bridesmaids.

Although the dresses differed in colour, the bride seemed to take offence that she had picked a similar style – and wasn’t ready to accept the coincidence, as reported by The Sun.







The bridemaids’ dresses, and the one the guest had bought for the occasion



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The bride messaged her to say: “My bridesmaids will be the only ones wearing any type of bridesmaids’ dresses.

“I would have asked you to colour coordinate with the wedding party if [the groom] and I wanted you to.

“We would appreciate if you do not wear a dress from a bridesmaids dress site or one that resembles our colours. I hate to be like this, but I figured this would never have come up.”

Sharing the messages on social media, the guest revealed it was the wedding of her boyfriend’s brother, asking: “Has anyone ever heard of a bride dictating what their guests wore to a wedding?



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“I decided it was best if I didn’t attend due to the bride treating me like this, and this isn’t my first run in with my boyfriend’s family treating me terribly and like an outsider.”

But her decision to boycott the celebrations altogether divided opinion among others, as one said: “Honestly I would suck it up and go if you don’t want to cause issues with his family.”

And another argued: “I think if a bride wants their guests to dress in a specific manner, they should say so on the invites. Otherwise too bad. I wouldn’t go either after that behaviour from the bride!”

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