The mum faced some criticism online, after asking for advice on how much she should charge her 16-year-old in rent, with many divided over whether it was reasonable to do so
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Depending on where you live, it can be hard to cobble enough to cover the cost of renting your own place.
When you move out of the family home, the cost of everyday life can come as a shock, as you discover how little you have left at the end of the month once costs are covered.
So one mum has found herself feeling rather depressed following a conversation with her daughter.
The mum asked her daughter to contribute a modest rent sum after she started an apprenticeship earlier this summer – but her daughter has outright refused.
Posting on Mumsnet, the woman said her 16-year-old daughter had made her feel “like the worst mum in the world” after she proposed she paid £200 a month.
The teenager is turning 17 at the end of October and recently started an apprenticeship with an annual salary of £14.500.
And she has no financial obligations – although chooses to buy lunch from the shop each day, when she could make food at home instead.
She is meant to pay the bill for her new iPhone X, but so far hasn’t transferred anything, which the mum has paid in order to ensure it doesn’t damage her credit rating.
The mum said the money will be put toward the teen’s driving lessons – after she paid for her provisional licence, and bought her a car to use after she passes.
“I have asked her to contribute £50 per week to the household,” the mum explained.
“For that, she will have all food provided, washing done, all the hot water she can use, lifts to wherever she wants, pretty much whenever she wants them, a lift to and from work each day (we don’t live on a bus route) and other usual stuff.
“Well, she’s made me feel like the worst mother in the world for asking.
“I’ve explained that we’ve lost her child benefit now, and I’m expecting her dad to stop paying maintenance too (not that his £17 a week makes a huge difference to be fair) but our outgoings have remained the same or increased.”
While the mum thought her requests were fair, she was left questioning the decision after her daughter refused to fork out the cash.
Fellow mums were quick to comment, with many people supporting the woman’s request.
One wrote: “I’d be considering charging her more tbh, even if you don’t need to then it can go towards her driving lessons (as you have already planned) and anything else that might come up.
“Separately, she’d be paying for her own phone, no discussion. If she won’t pay you directly, I’d have it blocked so she can’t use it and she can get her own, possibly pay-as-you-go phone and have to pay for that. She needs a reality check.”
Another added: “If this is the attitude she has now, she’s really going to struggle in a few years. Why does she think it’s acceptable not to contribute, especially for her own phone?
“She sounds spoilt honestly and like she needs some lessons in independence and responsibility.”
But some disagreed, as one blasted: “You are asking a 16-year-old child to pay to stay in their own home. You shouldn’t have had kids you can’t pay for.”