The man’s opening message on Hinge went viral after Stephanie Campbell, 22, shared it on Twitter, where she called for dating apps to do more to educate their users
Image: Stephanie Campbell)
Looking for love? The best chances of finding it are said to be on dating apps nowadays – but there’s a fair amount of toxicity too.
The first message you send on a dating app can make or break any chances you may have.
So it’s best not to start off by being incredibly rude to anyone you’re hoping to develop a connection with.
One woman was left speechless after receiving a ‘disgusting’ message on dating app Hinge, the Liverpool Echo reports.
Stephanie Campbell, 22, opened the dating app to find her match had sent her an opening message that evening that just read “‘yeah **** it, you’ll do.”
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Stephanie, from Huyton, Liverpool, posted the message on Twitter – giving us all a stark reminder of how toxic dating apps can be.
She wrote: “Again. Speechless. Someone should tell me this is a joke.”
The image went viral, with hundreds of people sharing their similar experiences on dating apps and websites.
But shockingly, she was also targeted by trolls, who set up accounts to flood her DM’s with abusive messages.
Steph said: “I’d matched with him but I hadn’t been on the app for a couple of days. I saw the message but I didn’t let it faze me because it happens quite regularly.
“I feel like it’s quite a regular thing with dating apps because I feel like people don’t take them seriously. It really shouldn’t be the case, messages like this don’t really bother me and I try and take the mick out of them.
“I try and have a bit of banter with them but I know there are other people out there that will take this badly.
“I probably get about one or two messages like this a week. I think the problem is people know they’re not going to meet the people they’re talking to. There are girls who will probably take messages like this to heart.”
Steph said that the young man has now unmatched her ‘out of embarrassment after her tweet went viral.
She said she’s now taking a break from the social media platform following ‘disgusting’ messages from trolls.
“People have even messaged me afterwards saying I don’t deserve anything better than that. I receive quite a bit of abuse online, it’s mainly people making fake accounts to message me,” added Steph.
“These men would never speak to women like this in person but they feel like they can do it from behind a screen.
“Stuff like this really puts me off dating apps, I feel like you never really go on a dating app to meet the love of your life.
“Everyone has bad experiences. It is a common thing to do when you’re single, a lot of people don’t take it seriously but I feel like it does put you off the experience.”
The 22-year-old said dating apps need to do more to educate users.
She continued: “I have actually met some amazing people on there and we’ve gone on to become great friends. You do get some people on there who are horrible which is a shame.
“Sadly, there is always the potential of risk and that people can take advantage of you when you go out. Messages like this show that there are men who don’t like women.
“Tinder has guidelines on what to do for safety but they don’t have a ‘what to say and what not to say to women’. It is what it is but there are people who would be really offended by this message.
“You just learn to laugh it off. You need to have thick skin but it shouldn’t have to be like that.”