CHILDBIRTH is a miracle, and a mess, so new moms are looking to experts’ candid online posts for guidance.
In her latest video, a mom who just gave birth to her fourth child weeks ago shares some uncomfortable truths she wishes she knew before having kids.
Chrissy Horton, mom of four, is a former event planner and preschool teacher, so her TikTok is full of fun and functional ideas for moms.
Her recent videos have focused on her fourth pregnancy in five years, her brand-new baby boy, and the birth recovery process.
Her first tip is a doozy: for several days after giving birth, keep taking your stool softener.
“After a few days, I thought everything was back to normal, but no,” Chrissy confesses, putting her most important tip at the top of her list.
“I pushed this guy out and he was over ten pounds,” Chrissy says, bouncing the newborn in her arms. “What I pushed out after felt like another ten-pound baby.”
Chrissy also warns that most moms will get the shakes in the hours and days after birth.
In the weeks following birth, be it C-section or vaginal, moms can also expect to have a lot of night sweats.
Both of these are due to the dramatic shift in hormones after giving birth, Chrissy explains, which don’t dissipate the moment the baby is delivered.
Along with the abdominal baby bump, Chrissy says that moms should expect to swell up in other areas of the body.
“When I say swelling, I mean everywhere,” Chrissy deadpans, briefly panning the camera to her waist and bottom while raising one eyebrow. “Everywhere. Mmm-hmm.”
The mom adds that everyone’s swelling will be different since it’s primarily caused by water retention.
The level of swelling will vary, depending on things like diet, and even if the hospital gives fluids via IV.
The one good thing: swelling won’t last long.
In a painful twist, new moms should expect to continue having contractions for days after giving birth.
Chrissy wishes she’d known this prior to having kids, because, as she explains, the sensation is more severe with every child.
These contractions are the uterus trying to “shrink up” to its original size, Chrissy says, and breastfeeding sessions can exacerbate them.
Chrissy’s final reveal is something she learned while still in the hospital. During the post-partum stay, new moms can expect nurses to come in and massage their stomachs every few hours.
In the comments, she explains, this is to make sure there is no hemorrhaging and no extra tissue (like the placenta) that needs to come out.
It’s not always painful, but it is a little strange–like many parts of motherhood.
In her other videos, Chrissy shares candid behind-the-scenes looks at her pregnancy and mothering a newborn.
She’s just one of the many moms who have found a place to be honest and supportive on the platform.