‘My boyfriend creepily stares at women’s bums when we’re out – and won’t stop’

A woman admitted her boyfriend won’t stop gawking at other women – and she’s stuck in a dilemma on whether to dump him because of it.

The mortified woman took to Mumsnet to get some advice on whether she should stick with the serial starer.

She started off by asking the question “Is it ok for your husband/boyfriend to stare at a woman?” eager to find out the opinions of other Mumsnet users.

Recognising that she “isn’t the most secure person” as her past marriage ended because of an affair, the woman gave some background info on her current relationship.

She commented: “I’ve been dating my boyfriend now for a year, everything is perfect except for this one thing that embarrasses me and makes me so upset when out and that is that he stares at women’s asses when out.”

“I’ve mentioned it and he’s not staring as long now and he’s trying to clearly make an effort. But any woman in leggings or tight revealing trousers and he has to look down to the bum, even if it’s quick. So as you can imagine, that’s A LOT of bum staring if you’re in town shopping.”

Faced with a dating disaster, the woman added that she has caught him red handed a number of times and it is starting to appear that he really can’t keep his hands, or in this case his eyes, to himself.

She said: “It’s really getting to me to the point I don’t think I’m secure enough to be with him…

“On the whole, he’s perfect and treats me like a princess but, this is a big red flag for me. Is this enough to walk away from or do I need to work on my confidence?”

Mumsnet users took to the comment section to show their disgust over the boyfriends ‘creepy’ actions.

Some even urged the woman to chuck him out, wondering why the woman was with him to begin with.

One user commented: “He sounds creepy. Of course he can stop himself staring at unsuspecting women’s arses if he really wanted to.”

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The anonymous lass sought support from Mumsnet users
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Another person added: “Ugh if it’s often enough you’ve noticed it then he’s a creep. Disrespectful to women in general – you and the ones he’s noticeably looking at the a***s of. Would make me think of him as a desperate teenage boy and give me the ick massively.”

Someone else added: “He’s a pig. Why you’ve tolerated this for as long as you have is beyond me. Raise your standards.”

In response to the opinions, the woman said her boyfriend told her he ‘wasn’t aware’ that he was staring at other women’s behinds and said he will ‘try’ to never do it again.

Not only has the woman noticed her boyfriend’s disrespectful ways, he has been called out whilst in public by another woman.

The original poster described the encounter: “It’s even gone as far as having a lovely evening in a restaurant, walking out and him stopping me to let a female jogger run past on the pavement, I was looking at the time in my handbag”

“But the next thing I heard her saying was “keep your eyes to yourself, you pervert”. I was shocked to say the least.”

Shockingly, the boyfriend tried to deny his behaviour by blaming the jogger.

“He swore up and down he didn’t do anything and that she obviously loves herself”, the woman recalled.

“I couldn’t say otherwise as I didn’t see what had happened as I was stood to his side preoccupied.”


So what should she do? Leave us your thoughts in the comments section below.

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