A bride-to-be has been branded ‘entitled’ after asking her brother to contribute towards her wedding fund and refusing to accept his £5,000 gift
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Weddings are expensive, there’s no two ways about it. Whether you have a small and intimate gathering of just close family and friends or you host the soiree of the century, the price always mounts up.
Traditionally speaking, the bride’s parents are usually expected to pay for the whole lot thanks to the patriarchy, but nowadays, the majority of couples tend to fork out for their big day themselves, with a little bit of help here and there.
The cost of a wedding is, of course, out reach for a lot of people, which is why one bride turned to her family to ask for support. But, while you might assume she’d go straight to her parents, this bride instead turned to her brother for financial help.
The 23-year-old, who has a daughter, 4, wasn’t able to go to university full-time due to raising her child, but she’s currently studying history in the hopes of becoming a teacher, which will give her a steady income. In the meantime, however, she relies on her fiancé, 27, and has income from his job in a research lab.
“We have enough money to live comfortably, but saving up money to have our dream wedding would take years,” the woman explained on Reddit’s Am I The A**hole forum.
“My brother, 28, works as a hospital doctor. His wife also works as a hospital doctor, so to say that they are well off would be an understatement. My brother hasn’t had the same struggles of raising a child, since they both don’t want any children and they’ve been able to save a lot of money due to this.”
The bride-to-be revealed she recently asked her brother if he’d be willing to contribute towards her wedding and he responded by offering £5,000 towards the overall cost of the big day.
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“This honestly surprised me. I might be wrong here, but surely as a hospital doctor, my brother should be able to contribute more to my wedding. I told him that I’d really appreciate it if he could give me £20,000 for my wedding, since it would really mean a lot, but he refused,” she continued.
“I’d be lying if I said I didn’t make my annoyance with my brother clear, and I told him that his refusal to help pay for my wedding is selfish, and that if he doesn’t help contribute to my wedding, then he won’t be able to come, since it isn’t my fault that I don’t earn a lot of money to fund my wedding.
“We had an argument afterwards, and I haven’t been returning his calls since. The rest of my family is helping to contribute to my wedding, which makes his refusal even worse.”
The woman said her dad told her she’s being too harsh on her sibling, prompting her to ask Reddit, “am I missing something here?”
“Why are you entitled to his money that he worked hard for? You should’ve just taken the £5,000 he offered to you, which is already a lot. If I were him, I wouldn’t even be giving you the £5,000 after this,” one Reddit user wrote.
Another added: “Are you for real here?? Like are you serious? Why should a brother have to pay for a wedding. It’s your wedding, you pay for it! You chose to have a kid, he didn’t, doesn’t mean he pays for your wedding?????
“I wouldn’t come to your wedding just based on the fact your delusional, perhaps you should of did the years and years of hard study to become a doctor and you could of afforded your dream wedding. But here you are.”
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