Bride ‘won’t take calls’ from brother as he refused to pay £20k for her wedding

Money can often be a tricky subject when it comes to weddings, considering they can be so expensive.

And it certainly caused a rift in one family as a young bride shared her situation.

The 23-year-old took to Reddit’s Am I The A**hole forum to reveal that she wasn’t talking to her brother currently.

This is because he wouldn’t contribute £20,000 towards her wedding.

The woman, who has a young daughter, aged 4, currently relies on her fiancé, 27, for his income from his job in a research lab.

This is because she is studying history in the hopes of becoming a teacher.



Her brother offered her £5,000 towards the wedding

The woman’s Reddit post was titled: ‘AITA for requesting that my brother gives me £20,000 to help me pay for my wedding since he makes a lot more than me?’.

She wrote: “I wasn’t able to go to university full time, since I was raising my daughter.

“However, I am currently studying history online, where I will hopefully be able to become a history teacher.

“Balancing studying while raising my daughter hasn’t been easy, however, having my fiancé supporting the family has really helped, since my fiancé works in a research lab.

“We have enough money to live comfortably, but saving up money to have our dream wedding would take years.

“My brother (28M) works as a hospital doctor.

“His wife also works as a hospital doctor, so to say that they are well off would be an understatement.

“My brother hasn’t had the same struggles of raising a child, since they both don’t want any children.



Rear view of young bride walking down the aisle while guests looking at her during wedding ceremony. Horizontal shot.
The bride said she wanted him to give her more money so she could have her ‘dream’ wedding

“I don’t mind the fact that they both have kids, but they have been able to save a lot of money due to this.

“Recently, I asked my brother if he would be able to help pay for my wedding, since having him contribute to my wedding would help make it a magical moment for me.”

The bride said her brother offered to give her £5,000 towards the cost of her big day, but she refused and requested £20,000 instead.

She added: “My brother offered to give me £5,000 towards my wedding, which honestly surprised me.

“I might be wrong here, but surely as a hospital doctor, my brother should be able to contribute more to my wedding.

“I told him that I’d really appreciate it if he could give me £20,000 for my wedding, since it would really mean a lot, but he refused.

“I’d be lying if I said I didn’t make my annoyance with my brother clear, and I told him that his refusal to help pay for my wedding is selfish, and that if he doesn’t help contribute to my wedding, then he won’t be able to come, since it isn’t my fault that I don’t a lot of money to fund my wedding.

“We had an argument afterwards, and I haven’t been returning his calls since.

“The rest of my family is helping to contribute to my wedding, which makes his refusal even worse.

“Despite my brother’s actions, my father thinks that I’m being too harsh on my brother, and that me not inviting him to my wedding would be upsetting for him.

“Am I missing something here?”

Many fellow Reddit users were shocked over the woman’s comments as they branded her “entitled” and “selfish”.

One exclaimed: “He offered you money and he didn’t have to. You’re entitled.”

Another added: “You don’t need to throw a wedding that costs tens of thousands of dollars you don’t have. Scale it back, have the wedding you can afford, and apologise to your brother for your selfishness.”

A third wrote: “If you can’t afford a £20,000 wedding then don’t have one.”

The post comes after a fellow bride said this week that she uninvited her sister from her wedding for refusing to buy a £3,500 computer as a gift.

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